After four decades of research on married couples, scientists have finally figured out what destroys marriages and keeps people from being together.
It turns out that the ominous rift between the spouses causes contempt.
This feeling of disgust, which over time appeared in people who love each other, doomed their marriage to an unhappy ending. But how can you avoid this?
Of course, everyone sometimes feels irritated if the partner disagrees with you, but when it turns into contempt for each other, this is already a very alarming symptom. We inevitably face problems in relationships, but if we do not discuss them, then it will not lead to anything good.
In addition, it can be difficult to deal with the rage, which makes discussing current issues completely impossible.
If you argue a lot, it doesn't matter. Relationships die of cold, not heated arguments. It's just that some couples end up quitting trying to dialogue, finding them too difficult or painful.
They give up and begin to exist as roommates, not spouses. Thus, inexorably approaching divorce!
To avoid contempt, you just need to do five simple things to help you better deal with conflicts.
- Watch for gestures like eye rolls, smirks, or passive-aggressive comments.
- Give your expectations a reality check, because partners often idealize each other.
- Look around you and think about why certain moments annoy you so much, and how you can deal with it.
- Instead of feeling angry when your partner disagrees with you, just listen to their point of view.
- Do not blame your partner, but talk about how you feel as a result of his actions.