Table of contents:
- You get annoyed about little things
- You see no reason to respect him
- You lie to him
- You avoid touching
- He doesn't make you laugh
- He makes demands
- He does not support you
- He tries to control you
Sometimes we do not understand that the relationship has exhausted itself, because nothing terrible happens: there are no scandals and clarifications of the relationship, but there is cool sex and a completely comfortable life together. But something is wrong. Some signals are slipping that this is the beginning of the end. Don't ignore them unless, of course, you feel like chopping off the dog's tail piece by piece.
You
You get annoyed about little things
He collects cups from the computer. He drives the car, saying: "What are you doing, monkey, son of a donkey!" He pokes at his navel, then examines the finger thoughtfully. It's unbearable! But the stupid habits of your sweetheart before not only did not irritate you, but even seemed funny. The problem is not what it does. The problem is that he generally exists in your life, and it infuriates, infuriates, infuriates.
You see no reason to respect him
At the same time, it does not matter at all what he actually achieved - you will find a reason to devalue any of his successes. Got a promotion? I sat out, at last, it is strange that it is not for retirement. Going in for sports and sculpting yourself a delicious body? You don't need to mind to pull the barbell. Have you learned a foreign language? All normal people did it at the institute, actually. No, you haven't turned into a shrew. It's just that the feelings are gone, and the mind is trying to find an excuse for this.
You lie to him
Small things. He asks where you have been, you answer that you met with a friend, although in fact you looked into the bookstore and disappeared for two hours at the shelf with new products. A senseless, irrational lie. What for? Not why, but why. Because you subconsciously seek to close some part of your life for him. Your own life, not yours.
You avoid touching
You don't take his hand, you don't run your fingers through his hair, you pull back if he wants to hug you. All this resembles an attack of appendicitis: you are uncomfortable, you take a pill and for a couple of hours you feel quite bearable. And then crazy pain rolls over you. But the body warned! So here: now you ignore the signals of your body, but soon you will start to feel sick and shake from its very smell. And he had to cut to hell, without waiting for peritonitis.
He
He doesn't make you laugh
Not that he was hiring you as a regular clown, but it was so much fun with him before! Now, no. Take a closer look at the men around you: any pedantic cracker and bore begins to sparkle with sparkling humor as soon as he falls in love. Because the easiest way to make a girl happy right now is to make her laugh. This is a completely natural mechanism that men do not even track. Are the jokes over? So it was all over.
He makes demands
Senseless and merciless. For example, so that you stop reading before bed, and not because the light interferes with it, but because you went to bed with whom, with him or with your book? The concentration of delirium in his ultimatums sometimes goes off scale, and you do not understand what is happening at all. Nothing good, unfortunately. A man is not looking for an excuse to throw out his irritation, he creates it. Out of the blue.
He does not support you
This is the very case when you have to believe not in deeds, but in words. If you have been together for a long time, then your boyfriend can do something simply by inertia. He is used to running after work for your favorite wine, he is used to driving if you have a difficult road ahead, he is used to helping you in the situation "Oh, I did not touch anything, it is by itself." Listen to what he says when you share your experiences with him. If he no longer tells you that you can handle it, that you are smart, that there is no need to worry, because he is nearby, it’s a pipe.
He tries to control you
He absolutely needs to know who you are going shopping with on Friday. By name! He writes indignant SMS if you are late for 15 minutes. He demands to tell who Alexey Petrovich Ivanko is, who for some reason calls you. Customer? Why didn't you talk about him - hiding something? Forget the phrase "Jealous means love." Jealous means trying to suppress you. He is no longer interested in you yourself, he is interested in power over you. And the more power, the more often he imagines himself Napoleon. Give him the Battle of Waterloo.
